With each individual having a special and unique DNA how can we expect the same rule to work on each such different DNAs?
‘Things not-to-do after a break-up’
‘How to live your dream without damaging your reality’
’10 things to do in order to succeed in everything you are assigned to’
These are just a few ‘attractive’ articles doing the rounds on the internet most often telling you what to do and what not to do in awkward situations or in order to make your existence just better. And for many unfortunately they are becoming the gospel truth.
I’ve also been prey to most of these articles and have developed a tendency to open them every now and then and sub-consciously somewhere even imbibe them. What we forget most often is that each of our composition is different and it would be very rare to have the same rule apply to two different people equally. These self-help articles are not absolute rubbish I would say, but the whole logic behind not taking them too seriously is that, a common medicine for stomach ache being consumed by every person who develops a stomach ache, isn’t that silly? Some have stomach ache due to constipation, some how have due to their periods, some have it due to some cancerous cyst lying inside, I mean how can the same medicine cure all stomach aches?
To give a more relatable example let’s check this, generally the first thing in an article on ‘Things not to do after a break-up’ would be –
‘Don’t try calling back your ex’ – well that makes sense on many levels as people get too needy and act like doormats after a break-up so this is a thumb-rule which we all see somewhere get influenced by and maybe even follow unknowingly, but hey what if you need a closure, what if that last conversation never ever happened, how would the same rule apply here. Every situation is going to be different, there is no rule which can be called as universal and perfect in any given situation, cause even the situations are always going to be different.
Another one from the same article which I found amusing was,
‘Don’t look for love again right after a break-up’ – Well maybe in most cases it is just to be protective about us so that due to an outburst of emotions causing emotional weakness we don’t get carried away and make the wrong choices, but what if love comes knocking at your door right after your break-up? Are you going to hold yourself back because it’s against the norms? Will you ask it to stand at the door because for the next one year it will be tagged as rebound? Hell no.
What feels right is right.
A general rule is that you don’t switch jobs too often it leaves a bad impression, but hey that rule doesn’t work for a person whose goal in life is to get varied experiences in very little time. Hence proved, who we are is different, what we want from life is different then how can a list of numbered rules take us a to an undisclosed destination where we want to be. It’s good to be open to everything but making something said by everyone your magna carta and living life according to that seems a little futile.
What 2015 taught me was.
Rules are going to be everywhere. Societal norms are never ending. And people are always going to comment on whatever you do or sometimes even if you don’t, because having an opinion on almost everything is a natural instinct in most of us. Don’t hate them.
But what’s important is to always remember your DNA is unique, distinct and special so what people say may not necessarily work out for your special DNA. The whole formula on anything, be it successful relationships, cracking amazing jobs or even having the most perfect date is that THERE ARE NO RULES. You messed it up you went against a norm or the rule no you haven’t fucked up, congratulations because you have tried creating your own path where you make discover new things which you wouldn’t hadn’t you not fucked up.
Yes the society will be under anarchy if there are no laws which stop people from doing what they want to. And that’s important for safety. But when it comes to your personal decisions of life there is no better inspiration than the inspiration found in your own instinct.
Let’s get a little more silent next time we are tempted to open that article with an interesting tagline, lets hear ourselves a little more and create our own tagline maybe.
And once again what I just said above works out for me so that’s my rule and is not a rule which maybe apply to your special DNA.
A super happy new year and a wonderful one to all the special DNAs reading this one. See you in 2016.