Caveat – Anyone who has a legit/serious passion and is happily pursuing it may surely want to skip the contents below. This one’s more for the ones in ‘I’m still figuring out’ or ‘I want to make it big, but I don’t know what I love the most’ zone.
“What’s your package?”, “Consultant or an employee?”, “How much are they offering you”, “What are the perks?”, “Internship or permanent?” these were just some questions which have the supernatural power of making us feel absolutely minuscule and worthless in a span of seconds irrespective of where we were or with whom we were while the door of 20s just hit us hard on the face, even before we could get out of college.
Be it the the unending conversations after drunky sessions of revelry with homies or just awkward ‘beta aap kaha kaam kar rahe ho?’ at almost unavoidable social gatherings, its practically impossible to evade the thoughts of ‘where am I going?’ and ‘what am i doing with my life?’
and just when you try to forget all of that, saala koi na koi toh tumhare market value/net worth nikaalne aa hi jaata hai, while your’re in your early twenties.
If this wasn’t enough to make your ripe jawaani (not sorry for that uncouth term!) exciting, we have these movies coming in every other fri-yay telling us to live like a pauper and follow our passion, follow our heart, follow our err….
But hello, agar passion hoti in the first place toh why would we sit and waste time watching such almost same-to-same movies, we would rather be lost persuing our passion for all you know. Toh boss, what about the maximum mango people, who are ordinary AF but don’t want to remain that way? They are pretty much jacked from all the sides –
Want to make big money, friends are doing so well already, looking for happiness in everything, hating monotony and how, looking for love (validation) pretty much all the time, want to have fun always and suffering major FOMO, want to work hard and be busy, causing staying office till 4am be cool, perpetually broke, perpetually want to travel, perpetually dreaming much, tired too much, bored to soon, parents pressure always….etc etc etc
WELCOME TO 20s GUYS!!
Now that we don’t have a solid passion and not making good money at the same time can get fatal, how about not meandering in the roads of ‘looking for happiness’ or ‘looking for passion’ or ‘waiting for enlightenment’ and getting that ass to work without getting too emotional about it?
How about starting off with something that you may not like that much, but maybe you are already good at it, instead of starting off with something you’re not that great with but you still like it. And since you’re doing something you’re good at, its very likely you will get your Vitamin M too soon, which help you keep it going to meander wherever you want to. You know it’s not that bad to get lost in a jungle looking for something, after you have already achieved something. Maybe the jungle may not be kind to you, but you always know you have something else to fall back on however comfortable it may not be.
Money, believe it or not, has a good enough association with happiness. No happiness, not in the sense that which car you’re driving to your work to, it’s more like a confidence booster, that I can make this much, I am worth this much and so on. It’s absolutely normal to identify our worth with how much we make for a living. Good or Bad is another issue/ Fair enough for now.
So the ones, who chose not meander into the unending tunnels looking for a ray of passion and just got their ass to work and gave in their best irrespectively of how much they hated or loved what they were doing and looked at their work more objectively than subjectively, could easily tick off that “good package” wala pressuring tag from their 20s list and could actually realize the importance of looking for the purpose of existence slightly quicker than the others.
The moment you have it, you don’t want it that badly, and then the mind clears up on its own, and the smog of money disappears, only to make way for the sunlight which could unravel the truth about you and that’s when the mind makes conscious efforts to start looking for some ‘real stuff’ and I think happiness and ‘real stuff’ are pretty much next door neighbors.
No offense to anyone but an analogy could do here – a pappu in college wanting to date that pretty chick to get his confidence booster and once he has done that, he would go out looking for something/something who stirs up his soul.
No that does not mean pretty people can’t stir up your soul. A proud feminist that I am, I totally believe pretty girls are smart, full of substance and fuck they can drive well.
So yes, instead of just walking around in whirlpools of frustration (if any!) why not get that money desperation out the system, by just putting yourself to work (anything you’re decent at!), and trust me once you get that cheque which pulls up your self worth sky-high, your soul will automatically drift towards the bigger and better things in life.
Sometimes, when you are clueless maybe you need that wrong but important girl/guy in your life to make you realize what uplifts that soul big time.
Sometimes you need to climb some small peaks in order to get to the highest peak, as most often it is the small peaks that block your view towards the highest peak and make the journey more frustrating and confusing. Well this worked for me atleast.
20s may sounds manic emotionally, but it’s not as bad, as long as you keep moving 🙂